I don't hate homosexuals. But I do hate sin. Homosexuality is sin, as shown numerous places in the Bible. Adultery, being unfaithful to one's spouse, or sex outside of marriage (which is a covenant before God) is also a sin. Murder is also a sin, but that doesn't stop countless people from murdering through the ages. It isn't hateful to point people to God's word for answers or warnings. If people are warned and turn from their sins to God, then go from facing judgment and [beeep] to being totally forgiven and born into the family of God, how is that hateful ? I would say that is the exact opposite of hate, it is love. Sodom and Gomorrah were both destroyed in one night because they were full of homosexuals that were in rebellion against God. Would it have been hateful for people to warn them of God's holiness, without which as it says in the Bible, "No one shall see God?"
I know in my life I sinned against God for many years until God brought me to a place of repentance. I sure was glad that people had been obedient to God and got the gospel message out, to the extent that many people had a part of me coming to God and being forgiven by their influence on my life through the years. Now I don't have the condemnation I had felt for so long. I was never "gay", but I certainly committed enough sins in my life so that my condemnation would have been just.
You say that you want the government to stay out of people's personal lives and bedrooms. But our laws are written on God's laws, although the similarities between both are becoming fewer every day. And because our country has been built on the foundation of God's Word, our country for years was the envy of the world, and strong, coming to the aid of other countries when they needed us to. Now, since God has been erased from our schools, our courthouses and our public venues, our foundations are crumbling.
Dropping all moral boundaries so no one has any restrictions on their actions only serves to appear to condone behaviors (sins) that will cost people their souls if they don't repent of them. God forgives "gays" just like he forgives murderers if either of them turns to God and asks for forgiveness for their sins (all of their sins, whatever they are). God sets them free from the power of sin that has held them for so long, and gives them new life and a new heart that wants to and is enabled to live in a Godly manner. God never saves someone so they can continue to live in sin, the way they feel like living.