It's really easy for a man -or anyone- to tell a woman that she has to do something that will commit her for the rest of her life. It's not so simple & easy if you're the woman or the girl being told.
How many of you guys have committed & followed through on paying for what you want? I'll give you an example, someone I happen to know:
She's 18, finished high school & just started college. She's been looking for a job for almost a year, finally got hired. In the 3 weeks since hiring she's worked a grand total of 15 hours at minimum wage. There simply aren't any jobs here. She has no money, no income. No way to move to another town & get started, that's about impossible for a broke single female with no real education or skills.
Now, she has medical insurance through her parents as a dependent in school. But if she leaves school, or even drops enough hours to no longer be a full time student, she will lose that insurance. If the baby is born, after birth there will be no medical insurance for it.
Her parents are both unable & unwilling to raise another kid. They've already raised theirs & other than what their own children need as adults, such as this one going to community college, they're done. They simply are NOT going to take on the responsibility of raising some guys kid. That guy, BTW, is NOT going to marry the girl. He did say that he was "going to be man, step up & take it day by day."
She used birth control, it failed. This is an unintended pregnancy.
She has no extended family in the area, there simply is no support in play. If she has the baby, she's going to be a single mom, likely going to survive if you care to call it that by becoming a welfare mom & making use of what govt aid she can.
You & I both know that this is a sewer for her to be trapped into. She will most likely end up not finishing school, end up in the projects, on food stamps & welfare while trying to find a way to get some lousy job (40% unemployment here, BTW) that will pay maybe $6 an hour or so. And how does day care get provided or paid for?
Now, she can have the baby, which is what the pro-lifers want. But she hasn't seen any of them jumping up to do so much as lift a finger to make sure that baby is provided for.
Most of the conservatives here are opposed to welfare & all the aid programs we have that our taxes pay for. We don't like welfare queens who raise a pack of kids on the system & we grips about how we're paying for all that. But at the same time we feel free to demand that they must give birth under any & all circumstances, regardless of their ability to pay for it, provide for the baby (I mean, if the girl can't even provide for herself yet, how does she provide for a baby on her own?), provide medical care after birth, etc. What if it has some serious health issues? With no insurance, then what?
So like I said, it's REAL friggin easy to have a nice, strong moral position & demand that everyone live up to it. But somehow, I can't help but wonder why the people with these beliefs who want to legally take the choice away from her have no responsibility to help her live up to their beliefs? Why aren't they clamoring to send money? After all it's not just next week or next year. It's every week, every month, every year, for at least the next 18 years. And rather than learn something & go on to be a productive member f society, earning a living, paying taxes & possibly getting married & forming a real family a bit later, she'll basically become a brood mare in this guys stable, with her life irrevocably altered to remove what ever potential her life may have held.
I said it once before but no one had anything to say:
It ultimately comes down to who's rights trump the others. Either the woman, who is an actual, legal person in her own right & grown enough to become pregnant & give birth, has the right, or the fetus, someone who isn't quite just yet, has the right.
But both can't have equal rights. One of them has greater rights. The woman either has the right to control her life, or the unborn has the right to the mothers life.
Current law places the power to the woman.
How many of you guys have committed & followed through on paying for what you want? I'll give you an example, someone I happen to know:
She's 18, finished high school & just started college. She's been looking for a job for almost a year, finally got hired. In the 3 weeks since hiring she's worked a grand total of 15 hours at minimum wage. There simply aren't any jobs here. She has no money, no income. No way to move to another town & get started, that's about impossible for a broke single female with no real education or skills.
Now, she has medical insurance through her parents as a dependent in school. But if she leaves school, or even drops enough hours to no longer be a full time student, she will lose that insurance. If the baby is born, after birth there will be no medical insurance for it.
Her parents are both unable & unwilling to raise another kid. They've already raised theirs & other than what their own children need as adults, such as this one going to community college, they're done. They simply are NOT going to take on the responsibility of raising some guys kid. That guy, BTW, is NOT going to marry the girl. He did say that he was "going to be man, step up & take it day by day."
She used birth control, it failed. This is an unintended pregnancy.
She has no extended family in the area, there simply is no support in play. If she has the baby, she's going to be a single mom, likely going to survive if you care to call it that by becoming a welfare mom & making use of what govt aid she can.
You & I both know that this is a sewer for her to be trapped into. She will most likely end up not finishing school, end up in the projects, on food stamps & welfare while trying to find a way to get some lousy job (40% unemployment here, BTW) that will pay maybe $6 an hour or so. And how does day care get provided or paid for?
Now, she can have the baby, which is what the pro-lifers want. But she hasn't seen any of them jumping up to do so much as lift a finger to make sure that baby is provided for.
Most of the conservatives here are opposed to welfare & all the aid programs we have that our taxes pay for. We don't like welfare queens who raise a pack of kids on the system & we grips about how we're paying for all that. But at the same time we feel free to demand that they must give birth under any & all circumstances, regardless of their ability to pay for it, provide for the baby (I mean, if the girl can't even provide for herself yet, how does she provide for a baby on her own?), provide medical care after birth, etc. What if it has some serious health issues? With no insurance, then what?
So like I said, it's REAL friggin easy to have a nice, strong moral position & demand that everyone live up to it. But somehow, I can't help but wonder why the people with these beliefs who want to legally take the choice away from her have no responsibility to help her live up to their beliefs? Why aren't they clamoring to send money? After all it's not just next week or next year. It's every week, every month, every year, for at least the next 18 years. And rather than learn something & go on to be a productive member f society, earning a living, paying taxes & possibly getting married & forming a real family a bit later, she'll basically become a brood mare in this guys stable, with her life irrevocably altered to remove what ever potential her life may have held.
I said it once before but no one had anything to say:
It ultimately comes down to who's rights trump the others. Either the woman, who is an actual, legal person in her own right & grown enough to become pregnant & give birth, has the right, or the fetus, someone who isn't quite just yet, has the right.
But both can't have equal rights. One of them has greater rights. The woman either has the right to control her life, or the unborn has the right to the mothers life.
Current law places the power to the woman.